Being an introvert shouldn’t stop you from attending networking events or seeking meaningful professional connections. Once you understand how your introverted brain works and learn some tricks to embrace your uniqueness and strengths, I guarantee there are many opportunities waiting for you.
Before we dive into some practical tips, here are two important reminders. If you are an introvert, you’re probably very good at reading the room and understanding people’s personalities. This ability is a key element in building connections. Secondly, most people, regardless of their industry, job title, or seniority, aren’t extreme extroverts either, especially in professional settings. Spoiler alert! Most of us feel some pressure when we’re in “work mode”—after all, the stakes aren’t as low as they are when hanging out with friends. With that said, the more you understand your natural behaviours, the better you can work on strategies to get the most out of networking opportunities.
Now, let’s talk about some practical advice, shall we?
Professional networking is about building mutually beneficial connections. Introverts can benefit greatly by focusing on the giving aspect of it, especially when this happens before asking for anything in return. This approach naturally starts the conversation and helps develop the relationship. Find ways to be useful.
For example, it might feel like a big effort to walk up to someone at a networking event and introduce yourself. However, if you bring extra pens, notepads, or something useful specific to the situation, you can be helpful to others—and this could be a great icebreaker. Maybe someone on your LinkedIn posted about starting a new job where a friend of yours works—offer to make an introduction. Being useful not only makes you stand out, but also makes the interaction feel less intimidating.
Preparation is Key
If possible, don’t network at times when you tend to feel drained. Arrange your schedule to keep your energy levels high.
One way to manage the anxiety of networking events is by preparing ahead of time. Introverts often feel more confident when they’re well-prepared. Start by doing a little research about who will be attending the event and what topics might come up. Familiarise yourself with any speakers or organisations that will be present. While you can’t predict exactly how conversations will progress, you’re in control of your own story—your professional journey, what you’re doing now, and your future plans. Practise your elevator pitch in front of a mirror until it feels natural; this will make it easier to introduce yourself when the moment comes. Think in advance of interesting projects you’re working on or recent books or articles you’ve read that could be relevant to share with peers.
Additionally, think of a few conversation starters that align with your interests. If you’re passionate about technology or a specific industry trend, bring it up. This not only shows your expertise but also makes it easier to connect with like-minded people.
Getting a conversation started is just the beginning. Keeping it interesting and engaging is equally important. Have a few questions ready that can add depth to the conversation. For instance, asking how someone ended up in their current role is more engaging than simply asking for their job title.
Practise Makes Progress
Finally, remember that networking is a skill like any other—it improves with practise. Set concrete goals to build your networking “muscles.” For example, invite at least one person from your industry for coffee each month or reach out to two former colleagues every quarter. You can even start small by aiming to chat with a stranger each time you visit your local bakery. If large events seem overwhelming, practise in smaller settings or online, where you may feel less pressure. Over time, these small wins will build your confidence and help refine your approach.
Personally, my very first time diving into a networking scenario was at an in-person event hosted by this very group. That’s right! And even though I was really shy at the time, the outcomes were incredibly positive. I connected with some wonderful women, and that made me feel much more at ease. Despite feeling slightly overwhelmed and knowing I had a long way to go in my journey of networking in English, I kept connecting with people in my industry and attending networking events little by little—and a couple of years later, the results have compounded.
If I can do it, so can you. Remember, every connection you make, no matter how small, is a step forward. Networking is not about being the loudest person in the room; it’s about showing up, being present, and making meaningful connections on your own terms. With preparation, practise, and the right mindset, you’ll find that networking can be both rewarding and empowering—even as an introvert. So take that first step. The connections you build today could shape your future.
